Let $~$N$~$ be a Subgroup of Group $~$G$~$. Then $~$N$~$ is normal in $~$G$~$ if and only if there is a group $~$H$~$ and a Group homomorphism $~$\phi:G \to H$~$ such that the kernel of $~$\phi$~$ is $~$N$~$.
Proof
"Normal" implies "is a kernel"
Let $~$N$~$ be normal, so it is closed under conjugation. Then we may define the Quotient group $~$G/N$~$, whose elements are the left cosets of $~$N$~$ in $~$G$~$, and where the operation is that $~$gN + hN = (g+h)N$~$. This group is well-defined (proof).
Now there is a homomorphism $~$\phi: G \to G/N$~$ given by $~$g \mapsto gN$~$. This is indeed a homomorphism, by definition of the group operation $~$gN + hN = (g+h)N$~$.
The kernel of this homomorphism is precisely $~$\{ g : gN = N \}$~$; that is simply $~$N$~$:
- Certainly $~$N \subseteq \{ g : gN = N \}$~$ (because $~$nN = N$~$ for all $~$n$~$, since $~$N$~$ is closed as a subgroup of $~$G$~$);
- We have $~$\{ g : gN = N \} \subseteq N$~$ because if $~$gN = N$~$ then in particular $~$g e \in N$~$ (where $~$e$~$ is the group identity) so $~$g \in N$~$.
"Is a kernel" implies "normal"
Let $~$\phi: G \to H$~$ have kernel $~$N$~$, so $~$\phi(n) = e$~$ if and only if $~$n \in N$~$. We claim that $~$N$~$ is closed under conjugation by members of $~$G$~$.
Indeed, $~$\phi(h n h^{-1}) = \phi(h) \phi(n) \phi(h^{-1}) = \phi(h) \phi(h^{-1})$~$ since $~$\phi(n) = e$~$. But that is $~$\phi(h h^{-1}) = \phi(e)$~$, so $~$hnh^{-1} \in N$~$.
That is, if $~$n \in N$~$ then $~$hnh^{-1} \in N$~$, so $~$N$~$ is normal.